Many of my clients come to me because at the end of their high school journey they fell into the old concept of how a career brings you happiness: that is, that happiness comes from having financial stability or status or a guaranteed job for life. Many of my clients tell me that they had a choice of three or maybe four careers that their family would accept them to go into – for example careers such as engineering, law or medicine. These types of careers were deemed to not only bring the secure pay cheque but along with that, all the other “stuff” that was deemed back then to bring happiness – be it the big house, the impressive car, the huge bank balance, the pension, or even a spouse and children. All these outside elements do indeed bring a certain amount of happiness, and of course children can bring a huge amount of meaning to life, but they only bring happiness if we have an internal sense of happiness, satisfaction and purpose to start with – if we are living a life that aligns to our values and passions. Don’t get me wrong, if you are passionate about your career in any of the examples we listed above, then you are on the right path. It’s when my clients are totally misaligned with their career choice that the challenges start.
Other clients come because they were passionate about their career once upon a time, they did make the right choice for them back then, but now that career has ran its course and they are seeking a change. Thy just don’t know what that change might be and how to go about making it.
Other clients are not misaligned – they genuinely love their jobs – but are lacking in the confidence needed to get noticed and promoted to their real level of competence. They seem to be forever being passed over for that promotion, that big project, that new initiative, which eventually brings them down and leads back to the inertia we mentioned above.